BBW Model or BBW Insert adjective here?

Disclaimer: What I am about to say may in fact offend or disturb some of the subjects of interest, though that is not my intention. I am discussing a real issue here.

I am an nonjudgmental person. I could care less what one does as a profession so long as it does not affect me or my family. I think a woman should be successful and by her own standards. However, I am getting more than a bit frustrated by the misuse of the terms BBW and BBW Model. In the recent months I have sought out other fellow BBW to befriend because they are beautiful and because I love to have a woman who can understand my world. I am a BBW Model. I take still pictures for money or sometimes just in exchange for professional photos. I model clothing on runways or fashion shows. I do not strip, prostitute or shoot porn, nor do I have sex for money or because a guy likes big girls. Now there is nothing bad or dirty about women who choose these professions.. but please stop calling yourself a model. A model is in fact that a Model: a physical representation of a class or type of person.. used to portray that class as a whole. When you use the term BBW model and you are a porn star... it makes it extremely hard for people to differentiate the two. I am invited to "BBW parties only to attend and find it's actually a orgy fest for fat chicks. No matter what your profession or size you should be 100% proud of what you do. If you are not then perhaps you should reconsider your profession. If you are a BBW Stripper… that's cool… make your money. If you are BBW Porn Star …. that's cool make your money… escort… cool make your money sweetie…but stop saying you are a model… porn stars are actresses., strippers are exotic dancers, and models are models. I am tired of opening my inbox to find some one assumes that I willing to do porn… thinks I want a "date" etc…. I have decided to use the word Plus Sized Model now.. simple because the term "BBW" has become synonymous with " Big Hoochie Mama" and I hate it!

As women we should be proud of having a term that encompasses what we are:

Big Beautiful Women and because of that we should hesitate to have that term be misinterpreted by society. Working as a Plus model I know it is extremely hard to find regular, paying work out there. But there is some work out there, I am living proof of that. Yet... I find that a lot of Plus Models are converting...

Allow me to tell you a story…. I had a young beautiful lady instant message me… I will keep her identity private… but she was discussing the possibility of her doing porn since plus modeling wasn't really paying the bills… I told her the ups and downs… and she expressed that that's what everyone wanted to see.. Sure it is.. Men will always want to see that…. but it's not the life that some of these women portray it to be… it's not all fabulosity… and glamour… it's a hectic life full of risks, sleazy producers and grimy co-workers. As an amateur you are lucky if your pay ends up doing more than covering your travel expenses and that $50 outfit you muscled together. By the time you subtract your nails, toes, weave etc.. you have made nothing at all… The pay often goes into self preparation for the next shoot… and if… big "if" you do get enough recognition the pressure is on … the expectations of your fans gets higher and you are expected to do more… and let's look at the odds here… You have to have something to market, face, ass or boobs… then you have to stand out… and then you have to compete against the other women who are already celebs in the industry… not an easy feat…. and when all is said and done.. only a small percentage of porn stars are rich enough to truly retire… it's is definitely a career in which you must hustle hard and prepare yourself with a plan B….. that being said I have many porn star friends that I love, who are about business and who are truly great people…. in fact I have a adult movie producer very close inside my inner circle and he will second everything I said….

So lady's the moral here is…. be sexy. be proud of who you are and what you do… state your occupation as is and don't let anyone knock you down…. respect yourself no matter what it is you do and have a classy way about you. You can be classy and have any occupation… how you carry yourself is extremely important in every situation and remember that if your going to be fat and glamourous then you have to make sure you love yourself first…

This message was brought to you from a Fat girl…….

He is so hot but does he like Big Girls?

So here it is Fat Girls and Dating... I know a lot of woman who have "all this so called confidence"... the same women who cry at night when they pass a mirror or can't get into the jeans they just bought last month........... and you may act like you don't have any idea what I am about to talk about.... and maybe that's true....maybe it's just me-but no matter how much effort I put into my hair, outfit or mood for the night... they was 1 or more of those guys.... those guys that are so hot.. you can feel your temperature change... and even though you not looking at him you have the irresistible urge to smile. The guy that in your deepest of hearts , you already decided would not date a big girl. The guy you can only envision some J-Lo or Paris Hilton sized woman on his arm... So you watch... make eye contact and break it... You watch diligently for some sort of feedback some interest in his eyes if you find none... eventually you brush it off and return to stare blankly at the crowd of frumpy 45 year old guys, that are gawking and sending you drinks.. and you begin to wonder why they can't morph into super hotties lmao..... and if you do find the nerve to talk to him.... you wait for those dreaded words... "Your pretty as hell but I'm not really into big girls... I don't know if anyone else has been there but I have... on more than one occasion. I used to live my life already deciding what guys I was able to be with. It is not true.... there are some sexy, intelligent, well-endowed, financially secure, serious relationship seeking men that will Love the SHIT out of every curve, ripple, nook and cranny you got! Do not sell yourself short! I was dating a GYN for a short period of time and he was an undercover big girl lover.... I left him in a NY minute. You will not be in the closet with me! If you can't be proud of me then you gotta go. I am 330 lbs. of meat and potatoes, smart, funny, and sexy as a mother shut your mouth..... so now when a guys says.... Your are so pretty but I don't date big girls... I say: "Well your very handsome but I don't date superficial people... so this kinda worked out... Enjoy your evening sexy! "

Moral:

You are beautiful.... in jeans, in see-through clothes, in a thong or in a mumu....(ok wait no-one is beautiful in a mumu...sorry...lol.. but you see where I am going with this, and you will never get anywhere relationship wise if you are always predicting the ending.... it's called a self-fufilling prophecy and that means that sometimes we meet our destiny on the same road we took to avoid it. Predict a happy ending....and you may subconsciously make it happen!

This message was approved by a Fat Girl!

Ladies Please Note:

If you only attend places where there are only BBW's remember that there are good men that wouldn't be caught dead at such places... not because he's embarrassed but because he may not like the scene... or what the term BBW has eventually come to mean nowadays...... I love BBW events/Clubs.... don't get me wrong but some of them are far too sleazy for me.. and I'm a naughty girl...lol.

Next Blog........ BBW versus Plus Sized? Has the term BBW become synonymous with Big Girl Hoochie Mama?