So here it is Fat Girls and Dating... I know a lot of woman who have "all this so called confidence"... the same women who cry at night when they pass a mirror or can't get into the jeans they just bought last month........... and you may act like you don't have any idea what I am about to talk about.... and maybe that's true....maybe it's just me-but no matter how much effort I put into my hair, outfit or mood for the night... they was 1 or more of those guys.... those guys that are so hot.. you can feel your temperature change... and even though you not looking at him you have the irresistible urge to smile. The guy that in your deepest of hearts , you already decided would not date a big girl. The guy you can only envision some J-Lo or Paris Hilton sized woman on his arm... So you watch... make eye contact and break it... You watch diligently for some sort of feedback some interest in his eyes if you find none... eventually you brush it off and return to stare blankly at the crowd of frumpy 45 year old guys, that are gawking and sending you drinks.. and you begin to wonder why they can't morph into super hotties lmao..... and if you do find the nerve to talk to him.... you wait for those dreaded words... "Your pretty as hell but I'm not really into big girls... I don't know if anyone else has been there but I have... on more than one occasion. I used to live my life already deciding what guys I was able to be with. It is not true.... there are some sexy, intelligent, well-endowed, financially secure, serious relationship seeking men that will Love the SHIT out of every curve, ripple, nook and cranny you got! Do not sell yourself short! I was dating a GYN for a short period of time and he was an undercover big girl lover.... I left him in a NY minute. You will not be in the closet with me! If you can't be proud of me then you gotta go. I am 330 lbs. of meat and potatoes, smart, funny, and sexy as a mother shut your mouth..... so now when a guys says.... Your are so pretty but I don't date big girls... I say: "Well your very handsome but I don't date superficial people... so this kinda worked out... Enjoy your evening sexy! "
Moral:
You are beautiful.... in jeans, in see-through clothes, in a thong or in a mumu....(ok wait no-one is beautiful in a mumu...sorry...lol.. but you see where I am going with this, and you will never get anywhere relationship wise if you are always predicting the ending.... it's called a self-fufilling prophecy and that means that sometimes we meet our destiny on the same road we took to avoid it. Predict a happy ending....and you may subconsciously make it happen!
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Ladies Please Note:
If you only attend places where there are only BBW's remember that there are good men that wouldn't be caught dead at such places... not because he's embarrassed but because he may not like the scene... or what the term BBW has eventually come to mean nowadays...... I love BBW events/Clubs.... don't get me wrong but some of them are far too sleazy for me.. and I'm a naughty girl...lol.
Next Blog........ BBW versus Plus Sized? Has the term BBW become synonymous with Big Girl Hoochie Mama?
Well honey speak for yourself because I am smokin in a moo-moo....LMAO....Just kidding....I been in that situation before "you are really pretty but just too big for me"...Blah blah blah...How about this one, i never even met the guy, we talked over the phone for weeks and he finally said to me "you are too large for me and I go all night"..he is 6'5" and weighs about 150 lbs, at the most...I said "you got your skinny wife that don't feed your ass so then you don't need to be with me, you might actually eat a cooked meal and gain a pound or two, and we wouldn't want that now would we"!!!! As stupid as his remark sounded so did mine...LMAO...He is on fb and don't you know, tried to contact me....Please....Poof....
ReplyDeleteLol.... that was a good one.....I bet he is regretting saying that craziness... how your too big but he's still around lol men can be so confused...
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